Grievance

 Grievance is not something that can be fixed or cured. It is a lifelong battle to endure. Grieving the loss of anything is tough and aching, and losing a loved one is beyond description. I, like many, have lost multiple people in my life. When grieving, I do not seek sympathy or remorse, I seek love and endearment. In the end, people going through loss and grievance remember those who were there with words of encouragement over the heaps of dead flowers. Although flowers are thoughtful and meaningful, and bring light and colour into their lives through this unbearable darkness, what people truly need during this time is presence. After losing someone, your world is flipped upside down and you no longer see the happiness in things you once did. This stage of loss is normal and will pass with time. Although your life won’t return to how it was before the loss of your loved one, you will indefinitely gain back your happiness. You may not find happiness in all the things you previously did however, you will create new passions leading to happiness. Losing someone isn’t just about losing the person. Loss is also about death to the relationship, connection, future memories, and goals. Not only are you grieving the person but you are grieving all other aspects involved in life; both good and bad. Overall, grievance is not something that you should endure alone. It is one of the very few things in life that can make you feel so solitary and distant however, with a great, positive, encouraging support system, you can learn how to safely cope when you are ready.